HOW CYBER LOVE EFFECTED TEENAGERS IN THE FUTURE LIFE?

A HAPPY ENDING???

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Based on the topic that we have discuss on the blogs, we all know that what are the effects of cyber love. There are many of effects would happens by loving couples in cyber love. In my opinion, effects of cyber love are divided into two where is positives effects and also negatives effects.

Positive effects

Let me start my point with positives effects. My first point of positive effects is can find your life partner. Based on cyber world, you can meet or chatting with all type of people in this world right? Well, of course for me. From that point, I think all of you can make a better choice for your future.

From the beginning of your relationship with your partner in cyber world, you can know your partner very well and than if you find that your partner is the best you can take him or her as your future partner. Sincerely for me, I can choose my partner in cyber world if I can meet someone who can take care of me for the rest of my life hopefully.

My second point is can find a very good friends and so on. More friends you make on cyber world, so that’s mean many choice you can make to be your partner in love relationship. Based on first impression of all your friends, you can make a good choice whether want to take one of them as your partner or not.

All of our teenagers nowadays really brilliant and can make their choice and then judge the partner based on their attitudes and all of other criteria what they want. From that, all of their good deeds for you can you judge and make it an advantages and if they are really love and care of you, they will try harder to get your attention and get your true love, I think.

Then, I will talk about my third point. From cyber love, I think the other positive effects of cyber love is you can be more honest to yourself and other person around you. Why? Because, in cyber world, you can be other person like whoever you want to be. Nobody will scold you or torture you if they find out that you are cheating.

But, in cyber, you can try to be more honest than before if you are really addicted with cyber love. When you find someone who are good hearted, spontaneously, you will talk anything about yourself with him or her. You will not lying anymore and from that part, we can detect you as good person and can conclude you be more honest with other person in cyber world.

From that part, eventhough you are not face to face with your partner, but you can build some good attitudes in cyber world and then in your cyber love relationship. For other people in cyber, some good deeds and honesty in our life, can attract someone heart and then can make it more serious in a cyber relationship.

The fourth point is, you will be more matured in your life. From your experience in cyber love before, you can be more careful and aware about your heart and feelings. You will never been trapped in cyber love again and be more matured in the future, I hope. That will be proven when you can detect and find someone who are more suitable with you from your chatting in cyber net. More experience you get, more matured you are in you life.

Negative effects

After we discuss the positive effects of cyber love, we will continue the discussion about the negative effects. Is not really hard to know the negative effects, don’t you? For me, yes and it is not really hard.

My first point is you will be brokenhearted. Of course because, you are still trial on cyber love. But, you are not success to do so. Frankly speaking, I will be brokenhearted too, you know. From internet or this cyber world, you are not so close or know your partner very well, I think. Then, how could you love and care about your partner??? Really mad actually. It is not impossible if one fine day you find out that your partner had lied to you and then of course you will be brokenhearted.

Then, from our group discussion, the second effect of cyber love is dishonestly. From cyber love, you have a very big potential to be a big liar in cyber world. In this chatting world, you are not telling the truth about yourself. You can be someone new actually. This is happened because you are chatting or contact with million people in this areas. Well, they do not to know you very well, right??

Then, after you lied in this chatting world, you are now a liar. Then, we can assume you as a big liar to other people. When you are facing too many contact and friends, it is sure you are not able to be honest to all of them.

Then, lets me explain about the third of negatives effects of cyber love. The partner will take an advantages on you. I think, this is the best part to explain for me. Nowadays, lots of story that we read from newspapers or internet that women or men are cheated by their partner from cyber net. This is usually happened to our teenagers nowadays.

They will try to pursuit you to come out with them few times. From that moment, they will try to find your weakness and make you fall into their trap to pulling your legs. They will pursuit you to give them borrowed your money. They will fooled you and until one day, you will realized that you have been cheated by your partner in that cyber net. They suddenly will disappear from your sight and break up your relationship. That’s all my point based on my research question on effects of cyber love.

Written by,nornasyitah binti ishak

HOW TEENAGERS GET INVOLVED WITH CYBER LOVE?

There are many reasons that lead teenagers and youngsters nowadays getting involved with cyber love. One of the reason is the exposure of the usage of technologies such as internet and handphone. As we know nowadays that this kind of technologies is very familiar with teenagers. Teenagers usually know about this technologies since they were young. Almost everyone can afford to buy their own handphone, even to buy a laptop. So,they will used to join the social website,for example yahoo messanger, myspace,facebook, and so on,which is a place for us to interact with other people in the world.

The second reasons is lack of knowledge about the risks of cyber love. Statistics has shown that many of criminal cases happen in blind date, for instant, rape,and kill.Some teenagers,they are not realizing the risks of falling in love in cyber. It is because,they might be cheated or fooled by their couple in cyber.Sometimes,the victims are not nobody,but people with great background,high educated,and have a good job.But,they still can be fooled by others.

On top of that,curiousity is also one of the reasons which lead the teenagers to fall in love in cyber.Some teenagers,they might be curious to know what is cyber love,and what are the feeling of falling in love in cyber.From the survey that had been done in Faculty of Social Science And Humanities in National University Of Malaysia(UKM),two over five responden agrees that curiousity is one of the factors that can lead teenagers and youngsters nowadays to fall in love in cyber. Experience of people near by them also can make the teenagers to fall in love in cyber.

The next reason is, lack of attention and monitoring from parents. Some parents nowadays are too busy with their works and they do not have enough quality time to spend with their children. So, their children may feel boring and lonely. To overcome this feeling, no wonder that the children will join the social website to find some friends and it will be easiest for them to fall in love in cyber.

The fifth reason is, commitment to jobs or studies. Some teenagers and youngsters sometimes are too busy with works,classes, and assignment.So, they did not have enough time to get to know people around them and to enjoy their life outside. Since internet and handphone is the easiest way to communicate with people around them, they will use this medium as the way to get to know people and to find some entertainments. There is no wonder that they can get involved with cyber love.

Last but not least, the reason why teenagers get involved with cyber love as it is the easiest ways for teenagers to get an instant couple without meeting or overreacting, especially for whom who did not have a couple yet. Futhermore, it is also the medium to find for a soulmate, for married purpose or just for fun.

WHAT ARE THE RISK OF CYBER LOVE AND REALITY LOVE?

The cyber love is something that not so real unless you are very sure that is your choice and it need both choices is come from heart and believes it. Someone feel lonely and the sign in cyber chatting to view new friends or someone special in their life. But there’re also when somebody joins in to the chatting room, they enjoy and feel happy because they can share about anything what happen to them on that day. When they have a problem, sometime the chatting friends will give them a way how to overcome the problem.

Firstly, there are a lot of cheating statement. Based on research, many people join into chat room use a wrong statement about their status, and also about themselves. Before this, I know somebody from chatting room, his name is laxman udasi.He tell me that him from korea.i am very excited to know about people at Korea, about the weather and many thing. We are a good friend. One day, I feel want to check about their profile at yahoo mail suddenly, I am very shock because from their profile, his actually from Bangladeshi am very hot and ashamed. My friend laugh at me went they know about it.so, the moral value from this risk, is don’t easy to believe another person especially from other countries.

Secondly, the risk from cyber love is distracting one’s attention especially to our students. There are many web sites which are involved about self and relation such as facebook, yahoo messenger and many more. As we know every study place have their own waterless and it easy way to students join in chat room. From that, they cannot give full attention to our study especially when they do an assgement.students will lost their interest to study when they sign in cyber chat in addition when they involved in cyber love.

The next risk from cyber love is exposing to cyber crime. Actually we cannot really see what type of crime happen nowadays in cyber love. When I do my research, I found many criminal in cyber love, such as prostitution, kidnapping, rape and many thing else. When someone get to know somebody from chatty room and get involved any relation with they, of course this relation want get dating day. So from that by this dating day the dangerous be come and it will easy to move on cyber crime. Somebody use chatting room the way how they will get a sexes cyber and it really come true. They will add the girls in cyber chat and start messenger something trouble. When they know others girls interest to involve about it they want to meet out from cyber would. And it is very dangerously especially to our teenagers.

For my opinion about the risk in reality love is frame up. For me both of this love really easy to get frump up. The guys nowadays easy becoming a lier.they use their own skill to tackle any girls and get love with them .sometimes they use their wealth, their face to get the woman heart, when they get the woman heart; it is easy to get anything about their women. So, see it women is a very weakness. The easy give anything when they feel in love with someone and the guy’s thing they will cheat and do something to women like rape and kidnapping.

The last risk about the reality love is immorality and tests our piety. Limits of socialize is one of the priority in islam.so, reality love often be a matter to words immorality. When the first date maybe you will shy by each other, but after you get a second or more date, the shy will lose and you with your partner will do something different like to hold a hand and anything.
So, for me refer to our self to care about lifestyle...

In my conclusion, both of cyber love and reality love has their own risk. Cyber love is happened online, but reality love is happened in real world.
In cyber love, all you know from him/her is through online, and there're many bad lier in cyber world. Maybe, the percentage u will be cheated is higher.
Then, reality love usually is formed from friends. That feeling discovered when you know more from him/her, or you two having same interest, same tastes on something.

WHAT ARE THE DIFFERENCES BETWEEN CYBER LOVE AND REALITY LOVE ?

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Based from previous discussions topics , i guess you all already know that what is mean by cyber love, right ? SO now we are goin to discuss about what are the differences between cyber love and reality love .

First of all, we talk about definition, cyber love. Cyber love is another kind of relationships which formed through online, or we say cyber world. In contrast, reality love is a normal kind of relationships which formed in reality world. Why we always conclude that reality love is normal relationship and cyber love is another type of relationship because there are differences between both relationships.

Reality love, is where u met ur partner in reality world, which we always said as "true love". In reality love, your partner is real , he/she will live together with you, means you two dating, watch movie , hanging out and etc (any action/activities in a relationships). It also mean, the couples can meet with their partner more frequently and they are more intimate relationships. And, you can always see your partner's face, the most importants is you can touch him/her. Then you will bring he/she out to lunch , to meet friends . This kind of relationships always linked from stage of being friends first , after that become closer and closer , in the end the feelings of love is confessed out. Then, only comes out with words girlfriend or boyfriend. It's so real, and there are many process being gone through before formed out the relationship. And this is what we called "reality love". These processes can be lots of communication, chatting, hanging out together, sms, phone calling and etc.... At last, i think i had already clearly describe out what is reality love.

Now, let's talk about cyber love. The differences between cyber love and reality love are the process and ways to begin the relationships. It is something like you know your partner through online, and friend-making websites, chatting rooms, or any website to know more friends. Firstly, you sign in the chatting rooms then you found someone very similar to you, having same hobbies with you, he/she can makes you laugh, and it's interesting and attractiving to chat with that person. Later, you feels like you hope to chat with him/her everyday, you feels like you likes that person and that person feels so. After that, that person or you suddenly confessed and said "lets's become partner and in a relationship". This is cyber love. The activities you contact your partner is online and chatting again and again. Everyday you just chat with your lover and maybe through webcame-you can see his/her face. It's quite informal relationships because many processes suppose you two should being and do it together already been cutted off. For example, you can't asked him/her to hang out/shopping with you, because he/she is far away from you. You need to wait you partner online then only you can chat with him/she... Emm, i think it's enough for the explaination of cyber love.

From the two paragraphs before, it's already clearly differenciate out the differences of cyber love and reality love.

The topics about the cyber love will be continued.

Any comments are welcomed. =)

Written by, hooi theng

What is cyber love ?

Based on what we have discuss , cyber love known as online relationship and also online digital dating relationship. because it happened in cyber world. Cyber love includes relationship build up through online, it can be msn , facebook , friendster and any website online dating.

"Cyber dating,cyber love...most people may feel so fresh with these terms.A guy "meets" a girl in a chatting room;they find out that they have so much in common. And from all the chatting and meeting online, all of a sudden they discover that they cannot sleep tight anymore without saying good night to their cyber lovers. " This is one of the definition from my friends.

As we all know,the feeling of love always comes out when you attract to someone and maybe you found someone who having same interest,hobbies with you. So, it can happened thru online, then come out with cyber love. It always comes out after couples month online chatting. Actually,cyber love is another kind of relationship. But yet, there are still many people do not agree with cyber love which they give the reasons that cyber love is unreal. Especially parents , they are scared their children can be cheated, which always come out in the headline of newspaper. For example, "My girl naked photos been posted youtube by her online boyfriend", " My cyber partner cheat thousands of my money" .....

But, if we changed our point of views, is that reality love happened the same things ? Perhaps the answer is yes. But why, there are still so many people misunderstood about cyber love ? Can't cyber love is also a romantic relationship ?

I guess through this passage and discussion below, you all able to understand what is the meaning of cyber love. And , another discussions topics about cyber love will be continue by the next post.

Here are some comments about cyber love from others website.

"cyber love is a good thing. now a days we talk and listen a lot about globalization, global village, etc etc. but cyber space is the only place where real globalization really exists. and cyber love is the best outcome of it, i guess. and what is love? love is an interaction of attraction, faith and dependence. then if it comes through fiber optics or radio links, i see nothing wrong, naturaly."

"Cyber love is the road less taken, what comes after is never clear, but through the internet, people are shielded from the face-to-face interactions, body language, etc. People may feel a lot more comfortable chatting through words and protected by the computer screen, thus be able to express their truest side. I cannot say I believe or not on online relationships, but I have a friend who is currently doing so."

P/s here are the true stories of cyber love. click the link if you interested to read it. =)

http://www.cyberlove101.com/index2.htm

written by, hooi theng.